None of us (for the most part) likes being told what to do. Especially if what they are telling us is not what we want to do or it hinders us from doing what we need (want) to do.
That is the situation all of us are in right now. We all, for the most part, could have never imagined that we would be in this situation right now. Before, we were going about our daily lives, and all was well. Well, we thought all was well but it was not. I think this is a clear indicator and reminder to us about how things can change so quickly in our lives. How at any moment, in a blink of an eye, the daily moments that make up our life can be instantly and swiftly changed.
I read an article the other day about how our lives were different just 100 days ago. Isn’t that interesting? Just 100 days ago, it doesn’t seem that long ago, but we could argue that it was a while ago, at least a couple of months. What things were you doing? I was looking forward to this new year and all that it would and could bring. I was planning for my son’s high school graduation and for our summer cruise to celebrate our son’s and nephews high school graduation. That was especially exciting being that we (me, my husband and our sons) have never been on one yet.
100 days ago….
But, in the article, it talked about how 100 days from now, it could be better. Look at how much more we will know because of what has happened. Look at how much better we could be. What are you (we) doing now to make the next 100 days, be the best 100 days regardless of the circumstances?
I am not one to not state the obvious, there are some of you that are going through difficult times right now. There have been jobs lost and funds cut. Some have been affected personally. Whether being sick or having a friend or family member become sick.
Because of that, some of us are really going through it right now. It’s hard. It’s really hard. Acknowledge it. I know it may be a small thing to those of you who have lost something during this time, but I myself am struggling with the fact that I may not be able to see my son walk that stage for something he has worked for his whole life. It hurts. I am acknowledging that. If I didn’t acknowledge, it would hurt even more. I know that there are a lot of parents feeling the same way.
So, one of the first ways to deal with a painful circumstance is to acknowledge it. We have grown so accustomed to responding with the mundane I’m fine when asked how we are doing. When truly we may not be fine. Let this be a lesson to tell others how we feel. To openly acknowledge, I’m not okay.
During this time we have to agree that mental health, self-care, and wellness are especially important at this time. If you haven’t already developed your own practice of self-care, I encourage you to do so. Take time for yourself. Turn off the news and focus on you and your family. There is an abundance of resources that have become free or more affordable that pertain to self-care. See if one of those interests you and try it out. Remember those 100 days? Think about the possibilities if you took the time to take better care of yourself? To finally learn that something that you have always wanted to learn but just didn’t have the time to. Use this time to get to know yourself, your children, your loved ones better.
But what if they are not with you, you may say? Could this be the time that you call more, text more, write more? It could be.
When we’re in the middle of something, it’s hard to see the positive to come out of any of it. I get it. I’m struggling with that myself. I acknowledge that fact. But, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t much to learn from having gone through all of this. Truth be told if we come out of this not learning anything at all, shame on us. Even with heartache and pain, there is a lesson learned. Always.
Acknowledge your pain. Once, you acknowledge it, then think about what you can do about it. Ask yourself what can you learn from your pain and how you can better take care of yourself. Also, don’t forget that if you feel that way, there are others who probably feel the same way. Reach out to them. You may be able to help them which is probably going to help you as well.
So, I know right now there might not be a lot of motivation that you have at this moment. That’s okay, I get it. Or you may be motivated to make the best out of a bad situation. Wherever you are, just remember 100 days. Then another 100 days. If that’s too long to think of, just think 30 or even just 7 days. How can we be better within that time period, regardless of what is going on?
Be motivated. Be essential. Be 100 days better, stronger, wiser……
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